Here's the skinny on diff types of lubricant - some are better than others!

* Silicone-based:  long lasting, waterproof but can break down other silicone products like sex toys.

* Petroleum-based:  (like petroleum jelly, Vaseline)  irritates vagina, and will break down latex very quickly

* Oil-based:  (vegetable oil, butter) safe for vagina, but also breaks down latex

* Water-based:  (water, glycerin, paraben)  safe for vagina, safe for use with latex and latex products.  Dries out the quickest, but can be rehydrated using some water or more lubricant.

Honestly I've never understood the whole fascination with anal.  Why do men loooove anal sex?  The other day I was asked by a certain someone :) if I'd be open to doing anal.  Bc I'm open-minded, want to please my man, and naturally curious, all wrapped up in a conservative little package, I took the opportunity to do a little bit of internet research and yes, blog on the topic :)

If history is any guide, we can look to ancient art to see  how far back people have been having anal sex....trust me, it's not a recent phenomenon.  Hindu art below (that is REALLY a pic of a penis)

So I guess humans have been doing anal for a long, long time.

So....if you want to know, WE didn't do it that night, but it's still on my mind.  IF we do do it, I'd probably wear a latex DRESS, for many reasons not the least of which is that it's um, easier to access (and looks and feels really hot).....men love dresses! 

In a Rolling Stone interview, Sarah Silverman said, "I didn't lose my virginity until I was 26.  I was 19 vaginally, but 26 what my boyfriend calls 'the real way.'" 

This story is sad, bizarre, and serves as a huge caution to those who like to engage in what would be considered high-risk sexual behaviors. 

A PA woman died while allegedly engaging in kinky sex acts with her husband.

"...he hooks clips to his wife's nipples and "plugs the cord into a electric strip" and shocks her....she removed her clothes, attached the clips, and shocked herself. He then picked up the electric strip and shocked her several more times, adding that he had placed a piece of electric tape over her mouth during the jolts. After the last shock, Kirsten, 29, "fell over on to her face." Taylor initially thought his wife was joking, but quickly realized she was unconscious."

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2008/0125081dryer1.html

He initially told the police (after dressing her) that she shocked herself with her blow dryer, then when his story din't hold up, he came clean and is now charged with manslaughter. 

Here's another story (fewer details) of a woman who also died while engaging in kinky sex.....this time it wasn't electrocution but sadomasochistic (SM) sex using "very particular" accessories....she died of a heart attack.   The article doesn't say whether he was ultimately charged with criminal negligence.

http://www.cbc.ca/canada/montreal/story/2008/02/26/qc-sadomacho-stbruno.html

Doesn't it seem like if the people choose to have sex like this, kinky or whatever, that the other person involved should NOT be charged with a crime?  It's 2 consenting adults after all, and there's no law prohibiting them from doing what they're doing in the privacy of their home.....if there's evidence that the other person was negligent and took it too far, then maybe yeah a crime has been committed but it seems like they're a little too trigger happy with charging these people with a "crime."

My friend sent me this article and asked if there was any chance I might have lesbian tendencies:

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23376489/?GT1=43001c

Apparently all women are either lesbian or bisexual :)

This is what I told him:

I'm attracted to hot people (men and women) and i have no fear of admitting that, but i love MEN....i love the way they look, how big they are, how they smell, how they sound, their deep voices, the way they feel, their muscles, how they behave, everything about them. 

Women are beautiful but men are soooo sexy....

I'm not a girl who has a fetish or understands fetishes (but trust me, I've tried).  There isn't anything that on cue will turn me on; for me it's all about context....being with the man that i adore, feeling sexy, attractive, appreciated, feeling like he's just really into me....that's what turns me on.  

But what a gift!  Imagine knowing that there's something out there that is so provocative to you, so appealing that the sight, smell, touch, feel of it just turns you on....how amazing.  

And to be on the receiving side of a fetish is pretty darn fun too....especially a fabric fetish, I mean, think about how hard some women work to turn on their man.....with a guy with a fetish, just the sight of you in a fabric that he likes is an instant turn-on. 

I love it!